Part II

[lotusbiosm]

In addition to a job, the fact that I am a smart, funny, attractive, kind woman means that I deserve a boyfriend/husband.
And I deserve one who is as wonderful as I am, and who treats me well and makes me happy, without me having to settle for what I can get.
What follows is a list of the requirements in my ideal life partner, in no particular order of importance-

- 25-35 years old (upper age limit is more negotiable)
- 5'10"-6'2" tall
- religiously and politically liberal (I tried dating a Republican, it didn't work. I have to be with someone who shares my values)
- kind, patient, gentle
- funny, playful
- intelligent, educated (BA at a minimum), well-read, reasonably well-traveled
- he wants to get married and have children
- sings (even if he's bad at it. And especially if he's good at it)
- is happy staying home on a Friday night to watch movies or silly TV shows but also occasionaly wants to go out to dinner and the theater or something cool
- has a vocabulary expansive enough to solve a Monday NY Times Crossword (OK, this is more to see if he has a good vocabulary and the ability to think creatively enough to see the solution to the clue when it's not straightforward)
- likes to cuddle (I am a cuddly person. I'm not going to spend my life with someone who doesn't want to cuddle with me. That would be dumb)
- generous with compliments (not in an insincere way, but when he thinks I look amazing, he tells me, and he means it, and I know he means it)
- believes in God (or at the very least, is open to the possibility of God's existence and doesn't think that I'm insane for believing in God)
- respects other peoples' religious beliefs (he doesn't have to agree with them, but respects their right to believe whatever crazy thing they want and behaves respectfully in a house of worship other than his own)
- has a sense of adventure, and is willing to see unforseen situations as adventures instead of disastors
- has a sense of style (he has to be able to dress himself)
- possesses a joie de vivre (life is pretty cool, when it's not busy sucking, and I want to be with someone who enjoys life and sees it for its possibilities and its beauty)
- is able to meet my physical and emotional needs. Romantic relationships are different from friendships, though they have a great deal in common. I'm not going to list all of the various physical needs that he needs to meet or how he needs to be able to meet them, because, well, my Mom reads this and that would be way oversharing. But suffice it to say that it is written down elsewhere and I think I have made it fairly clear to the Universe what I need and expect in that department.

Comments

[loungeact.livejournal.com]

those all seem reasonable, and i'm certain you'll find someone who meets those requirements. one thing, though: a college education does not necessarily make someone intelligent, nor does a lack of one indicate that they're not as smart as someone who did go to college. i have quite a few friends who are sincerely brilliant and just never made it all the way through (or even started) college. similarly, i know a lot of dumbasses with college degrees. just something to think about..


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[lotusbiosm.livejournal.com]

oh, hey, I went to college too, I'm well aware that there are a lot of dumbasses who get into college and make it out at the end as well. And some of them are not just morons, but also jerks.
I know that a a degree is not proof of intelligence, but I like to think it's proof of a certain level of knowledge, and I also think the college experience has other benefits as well. There's a reason that I say intelligent and college-educated. If he's got a BA from some online college and he doesn't know who Karl Marx is, well, then, he's not gettin' laid (well, he probably is, but not by me).

[aneslin.livejournal.com]

-he must also be able to sing the national anthem while doing the tango with an angry seal

maybe you should just try for a literate, hetrosexual man who is of legal age.

[lotusbiosm.livejournal.com]

Firstly, I don't think I'm asking for anything outragoues. A literate, heterosexual man who likes to have fun and isn't neurotic. the more specific you are about what you want out of a situation, the better your chances of actually getting what you want. I have dated men who meetthe description you give. And they weren't right for me, because there's this thing called compatibility, where what you want and believe and enjoy mesh with what the other person wants and believes and enjoys. The more you know what you want, the better able you are to find it. (Or to be frustrated because you know exactly what you're looking for and can't find it)
And I don't think that I should have to settle. I don't think anyone should.

[(Anonymous)]

So is it really true that Monday crosswords are the easiest? That's what my mom says, and it makes sense, as that was the only one I was ever able to solve (and not of the NY Times variety, either, unfortunately). :-P

-Kellie

[lotusbiosm.livejournal.com]

Well, my parents do the NY Times Xword every day, and yes, Mondays is the easiest, getting harder through the week through Saturday. Sunday's puzzle is about as hard as a Thursday, it's just bigger.
Thursday puzzles I think also tend to be more gimicky than some other days, if I recall correctly.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, from what I can tell (from the solution, ha!), Thursday's was weird--they kept using the word "point" but abbreviating it by giving you only one box, in which you were supposed to draw, I guess, a point.

But Friday's was pretty gimmicky, too.

-Kellie